Should you train with your significant other? My wife does triathlons, 5k races and bike rides. Her goals are to do a century ride. Mine are to squat 500, bench 350 and deadlift 600. Doesn’t seem like something that would allow us to train together. But we make it work.
To explain how, I have to tell a story.
On my first date with my wife, something happened that I think was foreshadowing how our marriage would be. We got lost in Cloudland Canyon State Park and went to the top of a small mountain to see if we could find the trail. There weren’t any other hikers around. We saw the way and started back down but the soil was loose and unstable and both of us fell. We slid for a few feet until I saw a root and grabbed with one hand and Naomi’s hand with the other.
What does this have to training with your significant other?
Simple, early in our relationship, we created a habit of making fitness something we did together (the hike) and we also set a precedent that when everything’s not going well (we got lost) we didn’t take it out on each other but instead we were supportive of each other. She motivates me to do cardio and I motivate her to strength train.
But regardless, we find ways to weave our separate goals into a harmonious fitness relationship.
In fact, she wants to do the century ride by having me go to The Grit House gym in Cleveland, TN to lift which is about 100 miles away from our house up I-75. She’ll ride her bike up there to meet me and we’ll go have lunch then drive back down together. See what I mean? If it’s important to you; you make it work.
John Greaves III writes for a variety of outlets including Power Magazine, StrengthAdvocate.com and Powerlifting Watch and has authored two fiction books involving powerlifting both of which are available on Amazon.com. He is a record holding Masters powerlifter, a combat veteran of Operation Iraqi Freedom, a former Marine Corps Martial Arts Instructor and was a silver medalist at the 2001 International Kickboxing Federation National Championships. He is constantly seeking out interesting people who have rejected an average life in favor of building an extraordinary legacy. John’s been training for twenty-three years and from a garage gym for sixteen. You can contact him at firstname.lastname@example.org.